Every year, it becomes more difficult to find your soul mate on the internet. And when it comes to men, it’s a task that borders on “mission impossible.” The fact is that in most dating apps, 70% of the audience is male, and only 30% is female. As a result, one female profile receives an avalanche of attention, while male profiles hang around for months without a single match. But this is not the only problem with dating apps. Many men are tired of perfect photos that are often edited beyond recognition. They want real, live communication without filters and long waits for a response. Is this possible on the modern internet? Let’s figure it out together.
Why dating services have become an obstacle course
In general, such a sharp demographic shift is the result of differences in the behavior of the sexes online. For example, most men like almost everyone in the hope of getting at least some response. Women, on the other hand, are very selective and only like those who could potentially interest them. In addition, women often complain about excessive attention and sometimes aggressive pressure in such apps. They simply leave these platforms, tired of overly intrusive “seekers of happiness”.
As a result, there is huge competition among men in these apps. This creates another problem for dating services: many developers deliberately monetize male loneliness. To make your profile stand out among the crowd, you need to buy boosts, premium account subscriptions, and other paid features. If you don’t, the chances of catching the eye of a beautiful stranger are quite low. As a result, the search for love turns into an endless waste of money with no guarantees.
Where to meet people besides apps
But there is good news — there are many alternatives to dating services. The main thing is to decide what you want from a relationship, and then it will be easier for you to find a place for a potentially fateful meeting.
Themed communities
If you are looking for a girl who shares your hobbies, meet people where communication is based on common interests. These can be groups on social networks and messengers, forums, even blogs. The advantage of this approach is that the acquaintance happens organically. You don’t need to come up with a reason to write, because you already have common ground. In addition, women feel more comfortable in such places. There is no feeling of a “bride market” and communication does not initially have an obvious “hunting” subtext. When you discuss a hiking route or the finer points of making pizza, you reveal yourself as a person, not just another man seeking female attention.
The main tip is to stay within the context. If you are discussing the nuances of programming in a chat, your first message to a girl should be on that topic. The transition to personal topics should be smooth. And, of course, don’t try to “teach” the girl — unsolicited advice is off-putting in most cases. Don’t turn into a boring teacher, even if you’re an expert on the subject. It’s better to be genuinely interested in the girl than to lecture her.
Social networks
When dating on social networks, the right tactics are important. Messages like “Hi, let’s get to know each other” often remain unread. Here are a few ways to take the initiative:
- Reactions to stories. But forget about “fire emojis” and heart emojis. It’s better to write meaningful comments. For example, if a girl posts a photo from a cafe, ask her what her favorite dessert is. If she posts a video from a walk, comment on the beautiful view.
- Non-trivial compliments. Don’t just praise her appearance. Compliment her taste, sense of humor, or choice of music.
- Meaningful comments under posts. Show that you’ve read the text under the photo, not just looked at the picture. Agree, “You’ve captured this city so beautifully” sounds much better than “Cool pics”.
It is also very important not to become a stalker, but to show a healthy interest in the girl. If you realize that she is responding curtly and monosyllabically, don’t bombard her with messages. Perhaps you are simply not her type and she is trying to remain polite. And if a conversation has started, don’t turn it into an interrogation.
And, of course, before writing to someone, you need to work on your profile. It should be “lively”, because the girl will definitely visit your page to understand who you are. It is not necessary to post photos of expensive cars or luxury resorts. It is much more important to show how you live and what you are like.
Video chats
This format is especially popular among those who don’t want to spend weeks corresponding and then be disappointed when they meet. Online video chats completely satisfy the need for “real” communication. Here, it’s impossible to hide behind photos and filters — you communicate in real time and feel each other’s energy. And you can interact almost like on a real date, without leaving your home.
Another advantage of random video chats is that you can choose who to communicate with. This feature is available on Luckycrush and CooMeet. These platforms have a gender filter — the system connects men only with women and vice versa. Therefore, each new connection is an opportunity to meet an interesting conversation partner. In addition, every girl must register and confirm their details on the Lucky Crush. And you can be sure that your conversation partner is real, not a fake or a bot.
Overall, random chat is a great option for those who are tired of swiping and waiting a long time for a response. Here, you don’t need to waste time looking through profiles. You just enter the video chat roulette, and after a few seconds, the system automatically selects a conversation partner for you. If there’s no “chemistry”, just press the “Next” button and start chatting with a new girl.
Life outside the internet
And, of course, don’t forget that fateful encounters also happen outside of screens. Love finds us when we least expect it. People still meet by chance in parks, at parties, in groups of mutual friends, or in coffee shops. So if you feel tired of online dating, take a break. And who knows, maybe during your “digital detox” you’ll meet the girl you’ve been dreaming of your whole life.
And if you met online, try to move your communication from online to offline as quickly as possible. After all, it is in real life that all the most interesting things happen.
